Moms, I've noticed we are a huge reason for this issue.
I read a blog today that really drove it home. It was about a mother who was really mad that someone complained about their child not being able to have birthday parties at school.
Obviously, because other children have food allergies.
Totally what you thought too right?
She was upset that another mother would think that it was the school's obligation to allow her to have a birthday celebration at school. Such as cupcakes, goody bags, and all that jazz.
You know, the same thing they did when I was in school.
Not thinking that expected the same respect from the school because her child has food allergies.
So, in her rant she expressed if you have a problem with it, don't invite the kids with special food needs.
Totally the stupidest, ignorant thoughts from two mothers trying to protect their child's rights - that aren't even rights.
All I read was my kid is a brat and more important than yours. I'll prove it by being a complete dumb-ass and separate the two types of children.
Or, teaching them self discipline?
How about showing them there are some things in life they can or can't do because it isn't good for them?
Most important, everyone is different and in order to be a decent person we need to acknowledge differences?
And we wonder why society is such a selfish and hateful place.
Adelia is different on multiple levels. We try hard to let her attend and be around others that can do things that she can not.
It's good for her. When she becomes an adult the world will not stop.
We go to birthday parties with jumpers knowing she will not be able to get in, unless all the kids take turns, or get out.
Do we expect this? NO.
Does she? YES, she is six.
So in order to help we encourage her to ask. Then we deal with the response accordingly.
It may require comforting, waiting, or smiling depending on the response from the other children.
Either way, its not the end of the world.
Suck it up kid. This will be the least disappointing thing in life.
A food allergy can definitely be a life ending situation. So, as a parent you take your happy ass to the party to monitor.
Or, tell your child they can not participate in certain things, unless they can figure it out on their own.
What's wrong with letting the birthday child's parent know he/she can not have this? Maybe they'd do party bags without food.
Maybe, just maybe, they might happily meet the needs of everyone.
It sounds like it is the parents having trouble not the children.
It will not be in your favor to let them think everything needs to change because they have a special need.
Their needs are not more important than the next person.
Teaching them to separate themselves from everyone is also a bad choice on the parents part.
These kids will one day need to function on their own. They will need friends, and self awareness to survive.
So take a seat, and let them figure shit out!
Not every situation revolves around your child's wants. YES A BIRTHDAY SITUATION IS A WANT!
So, moms, sometimes you're just going to have to take a seat and be quiet.
Or, you end up looking the child throwing a big fat fit for no big, fat fucking reason.
Keep it up, and your child will be 30:
Still in your house.
Expecting you to still making excuses for them.